Big Girls Don't Cry
Born chubby and now a grown, robust, italian/portuguese american, women; I have come to realize a thing or two that I might have missed if in fact I had been born tall and ballerina like.
I used to hope and pray that someday my neck would gracefully stretch out and that my fleshy, fruit shaped, abdomen would magically transform into an elegant and elongated piece of art work, much like the women's bodies I'd seen all my life In the Victoria's Secret catalogue. Funny thing is, this didn't happen. Still hasn't and probably never will. I am 5 foot 1 and overweight but I can't help but wonder if I'm healthy and happy does what the bastard scale says really even matter?
Being me used to really bum me out but in some small way I have never really wanted to be anyone else either.
I have witnessed on several occasions the way that grown men and boys alike have tried in their own way for lack of a better explanation "compliment" my girlfriends. They just go about it in a very profane and grotesque way.
I have a lot of very good looking, young, and by society's standards, "Normal" looking, attractive friends. They are of average height and weight and most of them have great hair, style, and class. Oh they also have great personalities too but who's asking?
What I'm saying is that most days I can't help but feel like the "DUFF" or
( designated, ugly, fat, friend )
I actually witnessed one gentlemen ( if I can be so kind as to give him that much credit ), this man walked by my friend in a Dunkin Donuts parking lot, turned back toward her, made eye contact and then he said, "yeah I'd like to tear that ass up."
Really? Is that anyway to talk to a lady? Did this guy honestly think my friend, whom I shall call K. Would honestly swoon at this lewd and lascivious comment and stand there begging for a date?
COME ON!!!
I know there are some good men left out there right? Please guys talk to your friends let them know that this growing, epidemic of bad behavior is not okay! Friends don't let friends verbally assault women or the world for that matter!
That being said. Being a chunky chick I suppose has it's advantages. I have never had a man say anything disgusting or sexually explicit toward me at a bar or club except for the occasional old biker dude, old man, or token chubby chaser and even then they are usually very nice to me.
However some men think they do have the divine right to comment on the size of my ass or to tell me what a pretty face or eyes I have.
Hey guy what about the rest of me? Am I to be considered a "butter body" and is that really any better than being a "butter face"? I have also heard comments while out with my friends that were obviously meant for me such as, "dude take one for the team!" or "She's a double bagger."
What makes you think I would even sleep with you anyway? Do I have a sign written across my forehead that says, "fat girl in dire need of lovin"?
No I don't believe I do, so thanks but no thanks. Herpes is the gift that keeps on giving and crabs itch like the dickens, or so I've heard. I have also been "moo'd" at by a group of teenage boys passing by in a car and on one very special occasion, while I was on a walk, GETTING EXORCIZE ( yes fat people do exorcise despite popular belief that we sit around all day clutching buckets of KFC and washing it all down with a pint of Ben & Jerry's ) But I digress a man actually shouted, "Eat a salad fatty!"
It is times like this that I am in fact elated that I am not what most people consider to be sexy or attractive. That way I know if people are callous, superficial, jerks. I will never get stuck wondering if the man in my life likes me for me or because he just wants to, ahem, "tap that ass."
So for now I've decided I'm okay being me. I don't think I'd trade all the fat jokes in the world in for just one gross come on line. Heaven is not missing an angel and no we're probably not tired from running through your dirty, little mind all day.
Why don't you try just talking to a women? Actually listen to what she has to say. Surprise a lot of beautiful women out there also have an equally beautiful brain.
VIVA LA CHUNKY!
I used to hope and pray that someday my neck would gracefully stretch out and that my fleshy, fruit shaped, abdomen would magically transform into an elegant and elongated piece of art work, much like the women's bodies I'd seen all my life In the Victoria's Secret catalogue. Funny thing is, this didn't happen. Still hasn't and probably never will. I am 5 foot 1 and overweight but I can't help but wonder if I'm healthy and happy does what the bastard scale says really even matter?
Being me used to really bum me out but in some small way I have never really wanted to be anyone else either.
I have witnessed on several occasions the way that grown men and boys alike have tried in their own way for lack of a better explanation "compliment" my girlfriends. They just go about it in a very profane and grotesque way.
I have a lot of very good looking, young, and by society's standards, "Normal" looking, attractive friends. They are of average height and weight and most of them have great hair, style, and class. Oh they also have great personalities too but who's asking?
What I'm saying is that most days I can't help but feel like the "DUFF" or
( designated, ugly, fat, friend )
I actually witnessed one gentlemen ( if I can be so kind as to give him that much credit ), this man walked by my friend in a Dunkin Donuts parking lot, turned back toward her, made eye contact and then he said, "yeah I'd like to tear that ass up."
Really? Is that anyway to talk to a lady? Did this guy honestly think my friend, whom I shall call K. Would honestly swoon at this lewd and lascivious comment and stand there begging for a date?
COME ON!!!
I know there are some good men left out there right? Please guys talk to your friends let them know that this growing, epidemic of bad behavior is not okay! Friends don't let friends verbally assault women or the world for that matter!
That being said. Being a chunky chick I suppose has it's advantages. I have never had a man say anything disgusting or sexually explicit toward me at a bar or club except for the occasional old biker dude, old man, or token chubby chaser and even then they are usually very nice to me.
However some men think they do have the divine right to comment on the size of my ass or to tell me what a pretty face or eyes I have.
Hey guy what about the rest of me? Am I to be considered a "butter body" and is that really any better than being a "butter face"? I have also heard comments while out with my friends that were obviously meant for me such as, "dude take one for the team!" or "She's a double bagger."
What makes you think I would even sleep with you anyway? Do I have a sign written across my forehead that says, "fat girl in dire need of lovin"?
No I don't believe I do, so thanks but no thanks. Herpes is the gift that keeps on giving and crabs itch like the dickens, or so I've heard. I have also been "moo'd" at by a group of teenage boys passing by in a car and on one very special occasion, while I was on a walk, GETTING EXORCIZE ( yes fat people do exorcise despite popular belief that we sit around all day clutching buckets of KFC and washing it all down with a pint of Ben & Jerry's ) But I digress a man actually shouted, "Eat a salad fatty!"
It is times like this that I am in fact elated that I am not what most people consider to be sexy or attractive. That way I know if people are callous, superficial, jerks. I will never get stuck wondering if the man in my life likes me for me or because he just wants to, ahem, "tap that ass."
So for now I've decided I'm okay being me. I don't think I'd trade all the fat jokes in the world in for just one gross come on line. Heaven is not missing an angel and no we're probably not tired from running through your dirty, little mind all day.
Why don't you try just talking to a women? Actually listen to what she has to say. Surprise a lot of beautiful women out there also have an equally beautiful brain.
VIVA LA CHUNKY!
<3 you very much!
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