Guns and Worrisome Parents
There are no guidelines, pie charts, graphs, reference books or "HOW TO" manuals on life. There is no magic glovebox that contains a leather bound source on how you should live your life and what bridge you should cross and how and when you should get there.
Wouldn't it be fancy if all parents were given a hefty, library dictionary, sized book on exactly what to do with us from the moment we come naked and screaming into this world until the day we ceremoniously check out?
what would the chapters look like?
Would the titles be customized to each individual's life or would it be more like a generic department store warranty?
Like, "Here Mr. Mommy & Daddy here's your baby boy/girl she has a 6 year limited bumper to bumper scratch, ding, or dent warranty. Subject to credit approval. It does not cover sudden death, dismemberment, loss, theft, or water damage."
Would the book let you know that your child was going to be average, fat, thin, stupid, smart, an astronaut or a drug addict? Would you even want to read that book?
Who would ever want to know that their child would die from cancer, a car accident, or would be murdered? Could you handle knowing your precious child would grow up to be mentally ill, steal, get pregnant at 16, or gun down his peers in school.
I think if that was the case than none of us would be lining up to be parents anytime soon.
As silly as it sounds what I'm trying to say is that nothing is written in stone. None of us would intentionally bring a child into this world if we knew he or she would do terrible things to themselves or others nor would we want to face knowing that he or she would die young or tragically. Sometimes we're better off not knowing.
There is never going to be a magical chapter that you can turn to called, "What to do when you or your child does something terribly wrong with serious consequences and other learning curves"
Stop trying to find the reasons why life is the way it is. The answer is, there is no answer. Sometimes bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. There is good and evil in us all. You just have to decide which seeds you will plant and watch grow. Sometimes the state of the crop isn't always directly attributed to the farmer. Some of it is hard work and then again some of it is pure luck.
Wouldn't it be fancy if all parents were given a hefty, library dictionary, sized book on exactly what to do with us from the moment we come naked and screaming into this world until the day we ceremoniously check out?
what would the chapters look like?
Would the titles be customized to each individual's life or would it be more like a generic department store warranty?
Like, "Here Mr. Mommy & Daddy here's your baby boy/girl she has a 6 year limited bumper to bumper scratch, ding, or dent warranty. Subject to credit approval. It does not cover sudden death, dismemberment, loss, theft, or water damage."
Would the book let you know that your child was going to be average, fat, thin, stupid, smart, an astronaut or a drug addict? Would you even want to read that book?
Who would ever want to know that their child would die from cancer, a car accident, or would be murdered? Could you handle knowing your precious child would grow up to be mentally ill, steal, get pregnant at 16, or gun down his peers in school.
I think if that was the case than none of us would be lining up to be parents anytime soon.
As silly as it sounds what I'm trying to say is that nothing is written in stone. None of us would intentionally bring a child into this world if we knew he or she would do terrible things to themselves or others nor would we want to face knowing that he or she would die young or tragically. Sometimes we're better off not knowing.
There is never going to be a magical chapter that you can turn to called, "What to do when you or your child does something terribly wrong with serious consequences and other learning curves"
Stop trying to find the reasons why life is the way it is. The answer is, there is no answer. Sometimes bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. There is good and evil in us all. You just have to decide which seeds you will plant and watch grow. Sometimes the state of the crop isn't always directly attributed to the farmer. Some of it is hard work and then again some of it is pure luck.
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